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I was just about to hit publish on this post when my screen swapped to my Facebook page tab. I’ll still never figure out this keyboard after several years it has a mind of it’s own. It seems that mind had other plans for me.
The first shared link on my Newsfeed was Mark Manson’s articles called “Love Is Not Enough” Naturally, I ditched the publish button on the blog and read the entire post with beaming eyes and an open mind. I came back to this screen and erased everything I had previously wrote.
I’ll be one of the first to admit – I’m in love with love. It’s a beautiful thing – probably one of the most pure experiences we can ever live through. It’s a need, a want but Mark is right. It’s not enough.
He discusses all aspects of falling in love: Compatibility, Problems & Sacrifice. I am guilty of being blind to all three… every, single, time. Aren’t you? Don’t lie! This is a safe zone.
Out of the three, the third resonated with me the most. Just recently during a conversation about dating I was told “Far warning… I can be selfish.” Honestly, at first glimpse you read that and think to yourself “I could never be with someone who is selfish!” But think about it… we’re all selfish in relationships. I am especially selfish.
The last couple of men (men = debatable) weren’t enough to make me want to change around my schedule. I have been single for going on three years and I’ve ran my life the way I wanted to for these three, selfish years. Once someone comes into it, it’s not easy to adjust. I go to an average of 3 events a week (on a high season), work on my blog and I See Noise from the moment I wake up to the minute I fall asleep, sometimes I’m even pirate eyeing it while I respond to an email. I use my weekends for photo shoots and see about 2 -3 people a week for meetings, coffees, lunches or dinners.
So if I’m working 80 hours, PLUS don’t forget I work at a bar once a week for a social life, weekends are packed and every other minute is spent catching up – where does he fit in? I’d say that’s being pretty selfish if I don’t adjust.
Mark says “But when it comes to sacrificing one’s self-respect, one’s dignity, one’s physical body, one’s ambitions and life purpose, just to be with someone, then that same love becomes problematic.” I have no issue with the first three but the ambitions and life purpose I struggle with. I’m on the path I’ve created for myself – I adore my life - I think this way of living, with no sacrifice, is even more problematic.
I get stuck on this exact idea “The only way you can fully enjoy the love in your life is to choose to make something else more important in your life than love.” Is this because when you come together in your combined world, it’s a getaway? You have something else to call your own and your whole world isn’t them? Currently, my whole world is me. I think I need to find the correct balance to truly embrace the one thing I love the most…love.
Do you believe that when you meet the right person you no longer want to be selfish?
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